Many have written lately about the manipulative sorts who know how to manage impressions but heartlessly prey on your sensibilities to get the better of you. But Steven describes these emotional predators with uncommon clarity and accuracy, in an excellent writing style, and offers spot-on practical advice on how to best protect yourself to boot. A must read!
I’ve read so many books identifying issues with NO solutions or strategies on what to do. You presented very practical and realistic strategies that are within grasp and will make a difference. I got answers, not more questions. You presented real life things to do. Thank you for writing this book and getting this important information out into the world.
This is excellent. The way you explain psychological terms such as ‘empathy’ is really helpful for a lay person like me. And it really helped that you call out the deficiencies of more traditional therapies in dealing with emotional predators. I wish therapists I saw had read your book. Your examples are great.
Like no other book I know, Protecting Yourself from Emotional Predators gives my patients a language to speak about their anguish from traumatic encounters with manipulative and abusive people, and a framework for how to respond. It empowers them to act.
Wolhandler’s book is easy and quick to read. The writing pulls in the reader. His thesis is very clear and the rare times he uses jargon, he defines it clearly (projection, projective identification, lying by omission, etc.).
This fascinating new work is essential reading for anyone who needs help dealing with a manipulative or abusive person and an invaluable adjunct to my psychotherapy work with these patients.
Not since George Simon has this topic been broached with such clarity. Wolhandler takes this topic head on and reminds his readers that Emotional Predators are both real and abundant in today’s society.
Protecting Yourself from Emotional Predators is a must read that reminds the reader that the only one who can protect themself from certain types of people is the reader, so take heed of the simple tools this book offers. Stop second guessing yourself and start asking powerful questions to ascertain whether or not you have been made a target of an Emotional Predator.
This is great. It all rings true! Thank you! Realizing that other people don’t think the way I do has been super helpful with my relations within my family – much more than three therapists were. I was always giving them one more chance and hoping they’d change. Now it really helps to know not to expect them to become different people.
I really loved this! It speaks to me on a lot of levels and really rings true both for spotting predators and for neutralizing them. Takes narcissists/sociopaths/etc and puts them in a context I can understand and handle. I like how you say not to think of them as humans but rather predators with a human semblance that use human emotion as a lure/trap. I think a big problem with dealing with these kinds of people is that we don’t understand what they’re really like.
This work offers an important perspective to mental/behavioral health issues that is not currently being addressed in our culture. It provides guidance to help people recognize and protect themselves from emotional predators. Wolhandler approaches this topic in accessible language and provides practical, accessible tools. Application of these ideas is important for the general public and for those in positions of authority in our social institutions (e.g., schools, faith community, justice, mental health, child welfare).
Written from a rare position of wisdom. Like no other self-help book I’ve encountered. Articulate, intelligent, and scientific while at the same time readable and relevant…. I mean relevant! I’ve learned an astounding amount. A real gem!!
A welcome addition to the self-help literature.
Having worked with patients who’ve been mistreated, I know how difficult it is for them to see their situation and their tormentor clearly. These patients will benefit from your forceful style of writing and your uncompromising attitude toward the problem of victimization and its resolution. Your book gets to the heart of the matter of helping the patient recognize how the predator operates and the importance of “protecting yourself right now.” You provide a stark but true image of the emotional predator as a landmine in the sunlit fields of your life. This book is for people that just don’t get that a person that they love has the unvarnished intent to take advantage, do them harm and make them suffer. Until and unless this insight is achieved the chance of escaping victimization is almost impossible.