How Vulnerable Are You? 12 Minute Free Assessment

Please DON'T overthink the answers. Simply select the first option that comes to mind. Go with your gut feeling!

All people are basically good inside

Bad things happen to bad people who are lazy and good things happen to good people who work hard

I like funny, charming, concerned people

I take care of others before I take care of myself

I am very emotionally sensitive

My fundamental beliefs are grounded in realities outside of me

I am not comfortable with confrontation

Love has to be earned

I feel isolated and lonely

To improve relationships, it’s better to express your emotions than be strategic

I will not intentionally mislead someone else

Truth is not relative

I tend to make excuses for others

Authorities should be respected

I want others to be good and kind

Truth is always better than lies

I am a peace-maker

I take things in stride and am not easily upset

I take other people’s accusations about me seriously

I have lots of regrets - things I should have done or said better

I have high self-esteem

I am uncomfortable opposing authority

I have a strong meditation or other practice that clears my mind and calms me

Your new question!

Honesty is the best policy

My perceptions are creations of my beliefs

I feel guilty when I make someone else feel bad

I recognize and appreciate good things in my life

It is good to take responsibility for how you make other people feel

I love falling in love

I tune into other people’s feelings easily

Altruism (doing things for others without getting something back) is always good

Bad people should be called out on their bad behavior (so they can have a chance to learn to do better)

I rely on my feelings and thinking equally

I have been told I am an enabler

I am or have been addicted

My emotions are beyond my control - they happen to me, I don’t create them

If someone changes the subject, it means I’m being insensitive to their feelings

My views of myself and others have changed over the years

When I’m in a relationship that isn’t going well, I try harder and give more

A good person gives other people the benefit of the doubt

To be a good person, I need to do everything I can for my friends

If something bad happens to me, I probably didn’t handle things as well as I should have

Do unto others as you would have others do unto you is a good guide for life

If someone treats me poorly, I should try to have compassion for them

I tend to self-medicate

I take on challenges and am not deterred by the unknown

What we do or say can make other people feel good or bad

I hate to be excluded

I want people I meet to listen to me and value what I say

In their core, most people are basically like me

I had a painful or difficult childhood

I share my emotions easily - I wear my heart on my sleeve

When things go badly with someone, I focus on what I could have done better

I have important unmet needs

I lose my sense of humor under stress

I tend to doubt myself

I tend to be a people pleaser

It is important that other people like me

Human nature is more or less the same in all people

I am comfortable changing my basic views of myself and others

Love is a feeling

I can feel guilty when things go badly between me and someone else

It improves my relationships to be open and honest about myself with others

Good people give without counting what they get back - without keeping score

I have been traumatized earlier in my life

I have had relationships with people who were wonderful at first, but later changed to become unpleasant or worse

I am a sucker for flattery and compliments

Life is basically a meritocracy where hard work and honesty are rewarded

To make any relationship better, I should be more honest and open with my feelings

My core beliefs and values are arbitrary

I wish my conscience didn’t bother me so often

When conflict arises, good people do everything possible to make peace

Displaying what I know impresses others and earns me respect and appreciation

Your new question!

I can adjust my core beliefs - I choose what to believe

Life is not random

It’s easy to get an emotional reaction from me

My religious or spiritual beliefs come from an authority or reality that is bigger than me

Investigating what other people tell me, rather than taking them at their word, is rude and paranoid

Work and things I have to do in life are different from play and things I do to relax

It is never helpful to intentionally mislead someone else

I do not enter personal relationships quickly or easily

A good person will take care of things for someone who is struggling

I can feel guilty or ashamed easily

Good people avoid conflict

I feel insecure around others

To be a good person in a relationship means being there for the other person and forgiving them when they are unkind

It is important to have other people like me

I pick up on other people’s emotions quickly

It’s hard for me to take a long-term view - I tend to see things in the short term, more immediate perspective

If I was a better person or worked harder, I would have what I want in life

If I’m in conflict with someone, I should respect and take seriously their point of view

I am a romantic

To be a good person, I need to do everything I can for my friends

I have a hard time changing my opinion of someone even when they show a different side of themselves

I feel unsure of myself around confident people

I am empathetic